May 11
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In an age where personal branding seems to be the hot topic of conversation, two questions come to mind “Who Do you Think You Are?” and “How Do Others See You?”
From the biggest names in show business to the Fortune 500 companies, image is everything but how does the image you see in the mirror match up against the image people receive?
It’s this single question that prompted me to write this article. Just who the heck am I in other peoples eyes? Do I match up with the image I’m hoping to portray?
Anyone can make up some story about who they are and what they’ve done so I’d like to try something completely different. I’d like to ask my friends and family to fill in the blanks…
If you know me (Frankie Hayward) and would like to share your experience (good or bad) please feel free to leave a comment below.
This will replace my “About Frankie” page as I think it will hold more clout than any story about my life (don’t want to bore you) and may even me a bit entertaining. : )
Thanks for contributing to this experiment and let me know if you would like me to return the favor.
Much Love and Respect,
Mar 16
Let’s say you’ve got your attitude correct, the right skill set honed, and the right philosophy. Great! You’re on your way – somewhere. If you don’t have the right direction planned out, you’ll simply wander aimlessly.
- Image by cbmd via Flickr
You don’t attempt even the smallest of construction jobs without a plan, and yet many people work in a field they just happened to “fall in to” because someone suggested it, or a friend was doing it, or even worse – they didn’t have anything else to do.
Wandering through your career can be just as deadly as wandering through a desert without a compass and canteen—in both places, you can die a slow death of thirst and exhaustion.
You must know where you want to go in order to set a direction for your life and career. You’ve probably heard the adage, “No one plans to fail, but they do fail to plan.” So determine where it is that you want to go (i.e., what you want to do) and set a course for it.
I recommend doing Continue reading »
Mar 12
One thing that stands in the way of success is your ability to believe in yourself.
We’ve touched on this in the attitude sections, but there’s more to it than just having a positive attitude. You must believe in yourself.
“So how do I do THAT?” you might be asking me right about now. “I’m really not good at very much… So-and-so at my office doesn’t struggle with anything.
That’s why s/he succeeds!” I’m sorry – did we begin a whine-fest here? Who’s bringing the cheese to go with the whine?
Everyone struggles with *something*, whether or not you know what that something is. If you struggle with your self-esteem, then you’re probably comparing yourself to other people and using a measuring stick that’s not even remotely accurate as you bash yourself and your own abilities.
The first thing you need to do is sit down with a piece of paper and start to write down the things at which you are genuinely good. I mean things like “I brush my teeth twice a day,” and “I’m organized.” For every skill or task that you OWN (and it doesn’t matter what it is), there is a way to put those abilities to good use and a way to make it your own personal success story.
Now that you’ve done that, think about Continue reading »
Mar 11
“Genius” has been described as the “ability to focus on one thing at a time.” Many people who are “geniuses” are so not only because they have a high intellect, but because they are a gift of being able to focus on the objective or goal at hand.
This same focus must come in to play when determining what your goals are in relation to success. You need to learn to work towards one major objective and juggle a few short- and mid-range goals at the same time.
One way to determine what your direction is (and ultimately your goals are) is Continue reading »
Mar 10
Success is defined in different ways by different people, but let’s talk about what most people agree “success” looks like.
Success Is…
- knowing you did a good job during your day and had positive interactions with other people
- looking forward to going home to your family and sharing yourself with them
- knowing you have enough funds to pay this month’s bills and the bills that will arise in the future
- knowing that your spiritual life is in order and that you have somewhere to turn when you hit a bump in the road
- having hobbies that you enjoy and having the time to work at them
Success Isn’t… Continue reading »
Mar 09
At some point on your road to your goals, you’ll need to take some time to reflect and assess where you are, where you’ve been, and how this is affecting where you want to go.
One way you can determine how you’re doing and where you’ve been is to journal. I personally am not a journaler, nor do I think everyone needs to be. But journaling is a great way to track your progress. If you feel intimidated by a blank book that’s sold as a “journal,” blog it. Blogging is a good way to put your thoughts down and out there in cyberspace.
Or choose an audio-method: speak in to a tape recorder. If, like me, you’re not a journaler, keep track of your progress and setbacks in the form of check-marks or some other recording-method.
I personally like to reassess after Continue reading »
Mar 08
Okay, so you’ve been giving it your all. Well, maybe not your *all*, but a good portion of your all. And you’re not seeing any progress. So now what? Are you doomed to failure and never to succeed? No! Keep reading.
One thing that you need to understand is that failure is an event, not a person. It doesn’t define you as a “loser” for the rest of your life – unless you let it. Failure happens to you – it isn’t who you are. You’re not a victim, but it also doesn’t define you. So when it happens (notice I didn’t say “if”), pick yourself up and get ready for the next event in your life.
You must adjust your attitude as you recuperate from a failure. You will rise to your own expectations. Psychologists call this a “self-fulfilling prophecy,” and we are suckers to believe our own words. So adjust your attitude to the positive side of things.
Remember the guy who came up with the brilliant idea to change Coke? Back in the 80s (for those of you who were mere babes during that decade), someone had a stroke of genius – or so he thought. The Coca Cola company decided to compete more with Pepsi, and changed the formulation of their signature product – Coke.
They called it “The New Coke.” It bombed. No one enjoyed the new taste and the calls were immediate to bring back “the old Coke.” After a few months of hemming and hawing, Coca Cola executives brought back the original formula of Coke and ditched the new stuff – and its creator.
So what happened to the guy whose idea this was? Continue reading »
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